{"id":6004,"date":"2012-03-21T13:54:35","date_gmt":"2012-03-21T13:54:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thelondonlook.com\/?p=6004"},"modified":"2018-01-31T11:40:56","modified_gmt":"2018-01-31T11:40:56","slug":"confessions-of-a-stripper-chapter-six-cheating-pt1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thelondonlook.com\/culture\/confessions-of-a-stripper\/confessions-of-a-stripper-chapter-six-cheating-pt1\/","title":{"rendered":"CONFESSIONS OF A STRIPPER CHAPTER SIX – CHEATING PT1"},"content":{"rendered":"

I follow an older man from the bar and join him.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s called Paul. A few of his golfing friends are in the club so he’s been dragged along. He tells me he never comes to places like this and feels quite uncomfortable. Rather than walking away (it\u2019s pretty obvious he won\u2019t have a dance) I continue to sit with him.<\/p>\n

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After all there’s no one else to talk to and he\u2019s sharing his champagne. We chat about his job – something to do with construction . Although we have nothing in common – he\u2019s 44 and likes golf – he\u2019s nice, really nice actually. As much as I could sit with him all night, I have to earn some money. He slips me \u00a350,<\/p>\n

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\u2018pop back later if you\u2019re free and we can have another chat’.<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n

As I get up to leave his two friends come back from the dance booths. One of them yells \u2018Paul you puff, have you not had a dance yet?’ and roughly hands me three twenty pound notes and whispers \u2018drag him away!\u2019. He’s shaking his head in protest.<\/p>\n

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I don\u2019t want to give the money back but he\u2019s defiantly refusing to follow me, he whispers that he feels bad on Susan, his wife. I reassure him that this is normal; a lot of customers agree having a dance feels like \u2018cheating\u2019. But does it?<\/p>\n

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If a man comes into a club every fortnight and gets a couple of lap dances at the end of a drunken night with his mates, is that different to someone who comes in regularly and spends hundreds of pounds?<\/p>\n

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If the customer was richer, the money becomes relative to how much they spend versus how much they earn. How about a man who comes in and repeatedly spends a large sum of money on the same girl every month. Would his wife think it was strange that he\u2019s spending a Friday night (and about a grand) with a twenty one year old stripper or consider it an act of infidelity?<\/p>\n

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Dancers aren\u2019t responsible for other people\u2019s relationships, however we understand our jobs can be the reason for arguments about wandering eyes, or even break ups about being unfaithful.<\/p>\n

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I guess that\u2019s why dancers are not always well liked by women. We are paid to act sexual towards someone else\u2019s boyfriend whilst they often see the brunt of it \u2013<\/p>\n

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\u2018sorry love, can\u2019t afford to take you to Nando\u2019s today, I paid a girl to dance naked for me last night then went home and wanked over it whilst you were sleeping\u2019.<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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It\u2019s a situation to make you get your g string in a twist.<\/p>\n

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When a man thinks about having sex with another woman, is that nearly as wrong as cheating? So surely having a dance, and playing out sexual thoughts in his head is the same. But why get another girl to spend hours with you, when you could be home with your partner?<\/p>\n

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That\u2019s where it get\u2019s murky. Maybe customers are using strip clubs as something more than sexual titillation. Paul is rambling on about how he feels bad on Susan; she\u2019s at home whilst he\u2019s out partying with his friends. I explain I\u2019m not offering to go home with him, or anything further than a strip tease and that he should calm down.<\/p>\n

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I leave frustrated and spend the next hour hustling for dances and any free drinks, just a usual Wednesday night. I glance over and Paul is gone from his chair. Maybe he\u2019s smoking, or at the bar \u2013 but wait, he\u2019s coming out of the booth! He’s finally had a naked girl grind on him, oh well done Paul!<\/p>\n

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I ask him what happened and he looks embarrassed, guilty even. I notice a fresh bottle of champagne has been opened so I brashly display my empty glass until one of the golfing champs fills me up. Paul checks his phone,<\/p>\n

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\u2018Susan hasn\u2019t called thank goodness’.<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Geez enough with Susan. The innocent ‘my poor wife’ act worked before but now he\u2019s had a pairs of tits in face, he really needs to lighten up. After more talking about his golfing antics he starts to become energetic.<\/p>\n

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\u2018Tell me about this VIP option\u2026.\u2019<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n

He pays for an hour and I take him upstairs. The room is littered with girls bending over for beady eyed men. We carry on chatting like before without his friends leering in the background. \u2018Lottie, do you mind if you dance for me?\u2019 I\u2019m shocked, the little devil isn\u2019t interested my wonderful banter but just wants to see my chebs.<\/p>\n

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I oblige, after all it\u2019s my job.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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